No one misses out on God’s goal of sexual purity until marriage because he or she didn’t have good information about what sex was. No, people miss out on God’s will for their lives because they fail to consider their decisions before they are placed in tempting situations. This weekend, we want to challenge Jr. Highers to consider their goals in the area of sexual purity for the next year. They don’t need to worry about being a college student or single adult yet, but they need to consider the next 12 months. We’re going to talk about this topic every year in ANTHEM. So, they need to consider what their boundaries are for the next year. They have their Tribes to support and challenge them. And, more importantly, they need to know that with God’s help, they can do this. To watch this Sunday’s message, view the video below.
Here’s a look at some of the questions we’ll press into at Tribes next Wednesday as well:
How far into the future do you feel you can set a goal? A week? A month? Six months? A year? Five years?
How would the average middle schooler finish this sentence: “There is no sense in saving sex till marriage because ____.”
How might he or she finish this sentence: “Yeah, but if I wait for sex, I’ll miss out on _____.”
Keeping your convictions can be very tough on your own. Who do you have on your side to assist you? (God and your group)
Read 1 Thessalonians 4:3–6:
“It is God’s will that you should be sanctified: that you should avoid sexual immorality; that each of you should learn to control your own body in a way that is holy and honorable, not in passionate lust like the pagans, who do not know God; and that in this matter no one should wrong or take advantage of a brother or sister.”
Sanctification is becoming a fully mature Christian in your faith. According to the verse, what might derail that growth? (Sexual immorality)
How might we say, “Learn to control you own body” today? (Have good moral boundaries; set up guardrails) Who are our brothers and sisters in this verse?
Small Group Activity
You will receive a worksheet with the 13 levels of intimacy listed on it. But, you may notice that numbers 5-10 have not been placed. During your conversation ask the students to work as a group and draw a line from the level of intimacy to the place they believe it fits on the worksheet. When the group has made their list show them the list the Transit Team came up with and compare.
Step of Intimacy:
- Notice someone
- Make eye contact
- Speak to him/her
- Hold hands
- Put your arm around his/her shoulder
- Put your hand around his/her waist
- Goodnight Kiss
- French Kiss
- Touch over clothing
- Touch under clothing
- Allow him/her to see your naked body
- Have oral sex
- Have intercourse
What intimacy level do you want to stay at in dating relationships for the next year?
How can this group help you stick to your convictions for the next year?
We believe that God’s will for every individual’s life is purity until marriage. Jr. Highers live in a time unlikely any other when it comes to temptation and access to information. In order to navigate the tension that arise when it comes to sexual purity, boundaries are key. Our hope in this final week of “Can We Not Talk About This?”, is to launch healthy conversations between Jr. Highers and their parents as well as their Tribes. As parents, you often time the source of boundaries or permission. As you hear about the goals your son or daughter may set for sexual purity in the coming year, consider how you might be able to support them. Yes, at times it might feel restrictive or you may be deemed “too strict” in a moment of tension, yet you might be able to help them live in alignment with God’s will for their sexuality. Maybe it’s turning phones off at a certain hour, maybe it’s group dating vs. one on one dating at this time in their life, maybe it’s random screenings of their social media accounts or text messages. We want you to have the healthiest relationship with your child, but they also need your guidance in their Jr. High years. This might be hard but be encouraged by knowing, that if managed in a healthy way, you could be instilling a discipline of boundaries that positively impacts the trajectory of their life.
Thank you so much for allowing your child to be a part of this series. We have been so honored to be able to speak into the lives of Jr. Highers regarding these important topics. We look forward to continuing healthy conversations and encouraging connection with you, their biggest influencers. If you are ever in need of support, please do not hesitate to connect with your child’s Tribe leader. Also, our ANTHEM staff is here to partner with you as you raise the next generation.
Thank you for allowing us to invest in the life if your son or daughter!