We all have questions about sex, especially teenagers. There is one question that tends to rise above the rest when you’re in your High School years…that is, “how far is too far?” Although this question and the surrounding topic of purity are key to God’s will for our sexuality, we know that teenagers also have many more questions.
So for week 2 of our “First Date Kit” series, we’ve decided to answer some of their pressing questions. Both myself and my wife, Heather, will be fielding some (moderated) questions from youth surrounding the topics of sex and dating. We often say that ANTHEM is a safe place for anyone to talk about anything, so we want teenagers to experience this on a weekend.
I’ll be the first to admit that we do not know everything on these topics. In fact, teenagers today are dealing with things we never would have imagined dealing with when we were in High School. Yet, I can promise you that we are committed to leading your teenagers to find thriving life in Jesus in every area of their life. As we press into the questions they will ask, we will be basing our answers in Biblical authority, personal experience, and extravagant grace. Our ultimate hope is that the questions and response from this weekend will pour into conversations that you have with your child throughout the week. Please ask them about what they talked about in youth on Sunday morning. As awkward as the topics may be, we believe you are the most influential voice in the life of your child, and we want to partner with you in this conversation.
After fielding some anonymous questions (they text them in) from our High Schoolers, I (Shane) will be giving a short message on God’s will for our sexual purity. The reality is that Scripture tells us how we should approach sex outside of God’s design within the context of marriage…
“Flee from sexual immorality. All other sins a person commits are outside the body, but whoever sins sexually, sins against their own body.” 1 Corinthians 6:18 (NIV)
The Apostle Paul uses this intense language to emphasize the important of distancing our self from sexual activity outside of God’s design. I believe he’s so vivid in his imagery because he wants us to understand the danger, damage, and regret associated with sexual sin. For those teenagers who have chosen purity, they can be encouraged that God will continue to support them on their journey. For those that have engaged in sexual activity, my hope is that they leave feel encouraged that purity can be their new reality. God is our restorer and redeemer. In Him, we are made new regardless of our sin. This means that for everyone purity is an option for the future because of what Jesus has done to move us past our past.
I hope your teenager leaves this weekend feeling valued through the Q&A time and feeling encouraged by the truth of God’s design for our sexuality. Dating can be difficult, but as we answer their questions and point them to purity, we hope to give them everything they need for a great first date.
Thank you so much for allowing us to have this conversation with your son or daughter. If you need any support throughout this series, please don’t hesitate to reach out to your child’s Tribe leader or our ANTHEM staff.